A box of fluffies

Poppy has a dirty underwear fetish. Spyro is “more of a socks man”. Kevin is fond of his Batman pyjamas and Megatron hates to be bathed but loves to be blow-dried. We even have a bilingual Cavalier King Charles.

It’s fair to say that we at Media Suite love our pets. It’s not uncommon for someone’s dog to be sitting patiently (or not so patiently) in a breakout room before a trip to the vet, or for a cat to be joining a video call – usually without an invitation. There’s been suggestions that Media Suite could branch into doggie daycare in the empty lot behind our building, or that the office just wouldn’t be complete without a teacup piglet. (Apparently you can’t buy them in New Zealand – we checked.)

When I suggested promoting our team’s pets in the company Hall of Fame (the blog), I feel confident saying it was the best response to a company-wide email I have seen. Most of the contributions came with half a dozen photos – some more, with the phrase, “I couldn’t pick, so here are heaps, you choose”. One had a Zip file with multiple folders, categorised – “to show all the sides of his personality”.

It’s no secret that pet ownership makes us happier.  From reduced risk of asthma, heart attack and depression, to lowering our stress levels, pets are basically living medicine for a whole hosts of ailments. Whether it’s walking the dog, patting the cat, or just having to care for a fluffy little dependant, pets bring a lot of positives.

At Media Suite, they serve the additional purpose of uniting us in a common interest. Most new hires would probably report being grilled on their pet ownership status at their first lunch break, or being asked to share photos of their puppy/kitten as if it were a newborn human.

Most of our team have pets – pampered pets. At least three dogs go to doggie daycare. One has a webcam set up at home so his owner can monitor him from the office. There are custom-built kennels (not currently in-use, of course), special dietary requirements, high-end grooming services, professional dog walkers, and one man who has stockpiled cat food in case there’s an emergency and “they only helicopter in human food”.

Below, for your viewing (and cooing) pleasure, is a short(ish) record of our furry friends. If for no other reason than to get them a little internet air time. You just never know where the next Grumpy Cat will be born.

Naturally, this Show and Tell will begin with Mati, the beloved office pooch. (From there, the pets have been ranked alphabetical order, to avoid any accusations of favouritism.)


Age: 15

Owner: George and Abi

Nickname(s): Mati, Mati-dog, Old Lady

Loves: She’s always struggled to keep her tongue to herself – the more she loves you the more she licks. Over 1.5 decades she’s realised most people don’t love being licked so has become super stealthy about approaching exposed flesh (like bare feet or ankles under desks) and just getting a really quick sneak-lick in. Mati is also committed to a good routine, so if something happens once (like coming to the office, or sharing a muesli bar at 10am, or sitting in a particular seat in the car), she’s lined up for a repeat tomorrow, the day after and the day after that.

This one time: We kept our wedding super-simple. Without a bridal party, Mati was the ring bearer and bridesmaid. Most of our friends new about Mati’s big role and witnessed her displeasure at being picked up from the groomers the day before, all primped and preened – practising the tying of the rings around her neck with a silk scarf. So as the guests arrived at the wedding and saw a muddy, wet, border collie leaping for joy in a stagnant pond at the bottom of the garden (without any sign of a scarf) there was quite a degree of concern and a couple of rescue plans quickly devised. Mati, cognisant of the importance of the occasion and her role in the event, was in fact lounging on the bride’s feet and eyeing the champagne and catering vehicles. The groom’s uncle’s border collie was the fiend in the pond…and there she stayed throughout the ceremony (thank goodness, eau de stagnant pond being somewhat unromantic). Mati performed her duties with aplomb. The best bride-dog a girl could ask for.


Age: 1.75

Owner: Steve

Nickname(s): Alf, Alfredo, LV (thanks to one family member’s pronunciation challenges)

Loves: Loves playing with the vacuum cleaner (by sitting in front of it) while you’re busy hoovering. Also has to sit between me and Estella (or across our laps) on the couch all the time.

This one time: I came home to Alfie sleeping belly-up on my pillow. If his playpen door is ever left unlocked, he can be found on our bed.

Fun Fact: Alfie is bilingual, in Mandarin and English.

Charley, Tippy, Maxy, Marmy and Honey

Owner: Stu

Nickname(s): Chimper, Chimpy, Sweet-pea. Tipper, Tibs, Fatso.

Loves: Cheese.

This one time: I started with one cat, Charley (she is a Russian Blue cross). She has been with me for over 17 years and has travelled from Perth to Brisbane to Queenstown with me. She is me in cat form: Quite irritable and LOVES cheese.

I never intended to have more than one cat, but Charley had to go into a cattery for a month. My wife visited her daily, and for some reason when we finally picked up Charley, we also had another cat carrier with a tiny black-and-white rescue Kitten called Tippy. Tippy eats a lot and didn’t stay tiny for very long. She weighs over 7kg and is about a metre long. She is nearly 10 now.
I never intended to have more than two cats, but my wife has recently been working on assignment in Auckland. Within 24 hours, she had identified a family of three stray cats (Maxy, Marmy and their mum, Honey). Within two weeks they were neutered and microchipped and living in her motel room (hats off to the motel owners for being cool with this). So it turns out I now have five cats. I haven’t met them in person yet.
I never intended to have more than five cats, but I’m married to a crazy cat lady, so….


Age: 3

Owner: Abbie

Nickname(s): Kev, Kevin-J, KJ, Puppoo, Puppy, Pup, K-diz, Kevo, Big K

Loves: Cuddling under his blankie, which he must sleep under every night whether it’s 3 degrees or 30. The beach is his happy place, because it combines his stick fetish with his water fetish and bird-chasing ambitions. He also attends doggie daycare where his favourite activity is bubble-chasing.

This one time: Kevin became a master of deception. Due to his preference for lying on the couch, ideally on a recently vacated seat which is still warm from the previous bottom, Kevin devised a cunning plan. If he goes to his dog mat and frantically scrapes his blankets ‘trying to arrange them’, someone will eventually get up to help. At which point he is free to run around behind the couch and nip into their warm spot. Foolproof.

Max and Poppy

Ages: 3 (Max), 9 (Poppy)

Owner: Pete

Loves: Max sulks when he doesn’t get his own way. He loves resting his head on the dinner table, but (usually) draws the line at stealing food. He hides behind me if another dog barks at him (despite having the loudest bark in most parks). Poppy is clearly the boss of their dog world, despite her diminutive stature. She has a fetish for dirty underwear, which if she gets hold of, she chews to death and leaves pieces of around the house.
This one time: I spent weeks building a fancy kennel for her (including vinyl floor, tin roof, insulation, porch etc), but she just uses it to hide food in, and stays in Max’s kennel instead.


Age: 8.5

Owner: Fiona

Nickname: Wowy

Loves: Trail walks in Bottle Lake Forest, his favourite food is pizza, and although he’s not a fan of big dogs he does love his small dog friends at daycare who he can play with boss around.

This one time: He is not a fan of the bath but he loves to be burrito’d in a towel and blow dried after his bath. Stories have been told of him hopping out of bed in the morning at the sound of the blow drier, and striking a pose against the side of the bathtub in order to be blow-warmed. Starting his morning the right way 😉

Fun fact: Megatron is a Canadian pupper that immigrated to NZ with me in 2012. Megatron has a love/hate relationship with his stuffed rabbit (one of the few toys he’s taken an interest in). A quirk of Megatron’s is to demand scratches by either head-butting you or pulling your hand towards him with his paw.

Milo and Otis

Owner: Andy

Nicknames: Venga Chicos – or, “come on guys”. Usually in response to dirty paw prints on the kitchen bench.

Loves: Their new home. Milo and Otis are rescues and have just joined the Wilkinson house a month ago.


Age: 2

Owner: Kerry

Nicknames: Swamp Monkey, Cub

Loves: a cuppa tea, will sit and stare at the kettle while it boils waiting for his ‘cup’, and has been known to whine if tea is made and he doesn’t get one. He’s decided that the cat flap in the front door is his window, and voice to the outside world, routinely making poor unsuspecting visitors jump by sticking his head out (which I must admit has made me laugh a few times, and saved on takeaway delivery tips by scaring off the delivery guy). He will take shiny things back to his bed like a little dragon. Visitors have been known to wonder where their keys, sunglasses or even tools were, only for me to find him hoarding them.

This one time: When he was a pup we spent many weekends building a huge insulated kennel… he’s refused to go in it which means that as I’m a softie he now has the conservatory instead, so it’s one elaborate dog play room and I don’t have a conservatory anymore!

Fun fact: He has his favourite cafes which he loves to visit, and if I try and walk past one he’s frequented, then he sits and won’t budge until we’ve stopped for a coffee (and a dog treat)…He also has a growing wardrobe (rain coat, booties to save his feet from hot tarmac in summer, life vest for when he comes out in the kayak).

Sasha (tortoiseshell) and Nala (grey)

Owner: Ed

Nicknames: Stinky Bum and Tiny Cat. Finn, 2, used to call them both Nala, but now he just says both their names every time he sees one of them, just in case. This way he can be right 100% of the time.

Loves: Nala loves cuddles (but is a little bitey). Sasha is more adventurous and tends to run around until she passes out, preferably on top of someone. Sasha likes to sleep under my chin like an over-sized novelty moustache.

This one time: They both like being under the blankets and stealing all of Maike’s (my wife’s) huge European pillow for themselves. Maike was sleeping halfway down the bed when we woke up this morning because the cats had muscled her out.

Fun fact: Right now they go outside and hunt crunchy autumn leaves and bring them inside for us. Nala picks up things and carries them around in her mouth. It started out with small Pom Poms, but now has progressed to large bags, pieces of paper, receipts and anything else that is twice her size.


Owner: Julia

Nicknames:No, Down, Give Me Back My Sock, Come Here, Get Out Of The Kitchen… juuust kidding. I mostly call him Buddy cos he’s my best buddy.

Loves: His habits/personality traits/fetishes mostly revolve around eating or destroying things. He is the most Labradory Labrador that ever was. His primary addiction is socks though. He think’s he’s really subtle stealing them but he’s got a really distinct sounding trot when he’s grabbed one from the washing basket. I can usually tell from another room what he’s up to just by the sound of his pitter patter on the floor and the smug look on his face when I finally catch him.

This one time:While he’s becoming more sensible as he ages he did not cope well with boredom when he was younger. I pop home to see him at lunch time during the week and there was a period of time where I’d discover newly destroyed items most days. He went through phases but his victims include our spa pool cover, my reading glasses, our lawn, garden sprinkler, clothes rack (flattened by the BBQ he pulled over on top of it), the vege garden fence, day-old jandals (not the worn, 6 year old pair), dog beds, paint brushes etc. I like to think he’s made us tidier people as we don’t leave stuff lying around as much as we used to.

Tara and Lola

Owner: Mitch

Nicknames: one of the “kids”, or Mumbles

Loves: Tara likes to find fresh peccary (small jungle pig) poop and dive in face-first, followed by a shower.  Hopefully the shower comes before she jumps onto the bed.

Fun fact: She tends to whisper-bark whenever she wants to play, but rarely actually barks.  We got Lola (a mixed-breed Tico dog) because she barks at anything that moves on the ground.

Wombat (the guinea pig)

Owner: Andrew and Sarah

Loves: Eating tissues, beat juggling, eating treats straight out of the jar.

This one time: We got Wombat a new cage buddy called Archie. We thought it’d be nice for him to have a friend, but Archie turned out to be a bit feral and bit Wombat on his bottom. For a while poor Wombat had a shaved bum where the vet fixed him up.

Fun Fact: We think Wombat knows all the states of America. If you say a place that isn’t a state, he just stares at us. If we say a state, he slightly raises his eyebrows. So that’s pretty irrefutable proof.

The Family Juggle

“We’re a family-friendly company.” We’ve all heard businesses roll out this phrase as part of a modern recruitment strategy. As far as I can tell, most fall well short of delivering.

Before starting a family, such a selling point was never a game changer for me. However, the imminent arrival of a baby quickly changed that mindset. All of a sudden, Parental Leave, job security, childcare and flexible work hours were at the forefront of my mind. Any parent will tell you, it’s a financial and emotional juggle.

Editing a blog post at a cafe with a much needed coffee.

My return to work was always a sure thing. What shape it would take, and when it would happen was a bit more fluid, and my ideas shifted once my son, Lockie was born. In the end, I worked from home a few hours a week once he was four months old, and returned to work three days a week this month – the day after he crossed the six month milestone.

For those of us returning to work, an employer’s attitude to work-life balance becomes a pretty major consideration. My own decision making process prompted me to look more closely at our parental leave laws and employer obligations, and consider the many ways we parents handle the balance. After chatting to members of the Media Suite crew, it’s pretty clear everyone strikes that balance a little differently.

What shone through, was the clear need for one thing – flexibility. And it’s not enough for it to come from just one angle. Working parents in 2018 need flexible work, flexible childcare and flexible government support. It’s only when all these things finally align, that I think we’ll see meaningful change in the happiness of our parenting workforce and the necessary shift in our workforce norms around gender expectations and productivity.

Here’s the problem:

Having a family these days comes with a whole host of challenges. Many families rely on two incomes to make ends meet. Some families want to share the caring work at home, others find that both parents wish to retain their professional identities and career opportunities and need additional flexibility or support around childcare arrangements.  For many in today’s workforce, it can come down to being home for the family dinner, or putting in a few more hours at the office. Choosing (or being pressured to) miss your child’s school play/sports game/dance recital to work can make all the difference in how supported you feel in your workplace.

There is no shortage of employers that seem to expect work should trump family every time. There is no shortage of parents out there who feel pressure or judgment from their colleagues on the occasions they put the needs of their child ahead of completing the working day. So how do we strike the balance?

In New Zealand, the legal allowances made for parents fall well short of the gold standard. Some countries offer a year of more of leave, paid at the parent’s normal salary rate or part thereof. Many allow specific leave for the father or non-birth parent, and some insist on this to promote bonding between a child and both their parents.

Parental Leave, particularly, has been a hot topic in New Zealand, of late. With the Prime Minister expecting, and a new government in charge, changes are afoot and scrutiny has never been higher.

At the moment, New Zealand’s Parental Leave laws allow for 18 weeks paid leave, at a maximum of $538.55 weekly before tax, extending to 22 weeks beginning in July. Parents can choose to share this leave between them, but there is no provision for additional leave for fathers. After the “paid” period is up, any additional leave is unpaid,

Being part of the solution:

Anyone reading the comments section on an online news article will see the nation can be divided when it comes to offering special circumstances or entitlements for families. For those of us who would like to see changes made, it requires three key areas to align – workplace flexibility, childcare options and government support.

The government bit:

Almost all Media Suite parents mentioned they would love to see more flexibility in the way each family is able to manage its government entitlements, to reflect the different needs in their household. Parental Leave law changes in 2016 were a good start, but mother of three and Commercial Manager, Abi, thinks more flexibility is key.

I’m utterly passionate about the upside for both employee and employer offered by more “keeping in touch” hours over the parental leave period. Keeping professionally relevant, staying connected – and being able to bring in a little economic contribution to your family – is really meaningful on both sides of the employment relationship. Ideally I’d like to see more KIT hours available and potentially the ability to spread your parental leave package differently so you can scale up a return to work in a more supported way. – Abi

When I was on maternity leave, I valued a bit of paid work time here and there during nap time or in the evening. Especially because I found that government maternity leave payments were nice to have and much appreciated, but below my typical income level and for too short a time. Again, those European countries are setting a high bar by paying at, or a percentage of the parent’s usual income to reflect their usual living costs. It’s easy to see how parents can feel under pressure to return to work ahead of their readiness when finances are stretched.

Abi ‘Keeping in Touch’ with work while home with her kids.

When it comes to parenting and the workforce, times, and gender expectations, have definitely changed. But while we would like to think that women ‘of a certain age’ aren’t discriminated against in the hiring or promotion process, many women report that this is still going on. A few changes to parental leave laws could help level the playing field.

I think the Northern European model (e.g. Norway, Iceland & Sweden) which offer fathers significant paid parental leave is desirable. For the non-birth parent to have, not just a chance, but an economic incentive to stay at home with an infant really helps to break down gender-based expectations about where nurturing care should happen. – Abi

Almost all Media Suite families wished there was paid leave offered to the non-birth parent, encouraging bonding between both parents and their child in the early days. Too often we see one parent having to race back to work to keep the money coming in, and missing important time with their new baby. If employers knew both parents would take a paid leave entitlement at some point, perhaps hiring prejudices could also be weakened.

The childcare bit:

Working parents will know how important trusted child care is. However, the real sweet spot is found when that care is also flexible – whether that means being able to afford (or wanting to be) a stay at home parent, or having access to family or professional carers.

Abi’s kids are fortunate to have access to a community, not for profit preschool which runs totally flexible hours with seriously affordable fees and high staff:child ratios. As such, she has been comfortable working consistent part-time hours even with very young children, without having to compromise on her preferences around feeding and parenting philosophy. Flexible childcare options which truly support the needs and preferences of working parents also play a huge part in finding work-life balance.   

My son Lockie and his Nana, who currently looks after him while I’m at work.

In my family, I am lucky to have very enthusiastic and engaged grandparents. At the moment, I am privileged to have my mum caring for my son three days a week. This transition time, where I can have a family member at home with him, has made my return to work a lot less stressful.

Childcare also goes beyond reliance on professional providers or extended family. A few of our Media Suite dads have chosen to scale back their own work hours (either temporarily or permanently) to stay home with their children so their partners can get back into the workforce – something Media Suite really strives to support.

The work part:

At Media Suite, work-life balance is less myth, and more reality. For some, it’s being able to surf when the waves are good. For others, it’s walking the dogs in the lunch hour, or leaving early to hit the gym. It also works for us as parents.

For those with families, balance can be particularly hard to achieve, with many parents feeling like they are failing at both (even when they aren’t). Media Suite tries to make achieving balance a little easier. As a team, we talk openly about managing stress, juggling family needs and fitting in high quality down-time. Above all, we focus on getting great quality work done when it is needed, and less on being seen in the office 8.30 to 5.30, Monday to Friday.

One tangible benefit Media Suite offers to everyone is an additional week’s leave when a new addition to a family is expected – paid at normal Annual Leave rates. No requirements or constraints are placed around where and when this leave is used. Some team members have used the ‘free week’ straight after the birth, to assist with care of older children or bond with the new baby. Some have taken it instead of unpaid leave, others have taken it to reduce working hours in the late stages of pregnancy. Media Suite also strives to offer maximum flexibility to parents who might want to take a longer period of unpaid leave or work significantly reduced hours over a longer period.

Ewen’s daughter Elise ‘helping’ with work.

Last year, I used my 40 hours across the last month of my pregnancy, starting work later in the day. It allowed me to sleep in a bit and get a bit of exercise. I was in the process of handing off my duties to another staff member, so the gradual scale-back worked for everyone involved. Developer Ewen saved his leave hours for “down the track” when his daughter (their third child) was born. Jonathan used his to extend his leave when his daughter was born over the Christmas break.

As with any flexibility sought by a member of the team, implementation varies based on personal circumstances and preference combined with the requirements of your role. Wherever flexibility is found, it is the product of  balancing the needs of the impacted project or team with the needs of the family unit. At the end of the day, every single family is different (and its needs change over time). A ‘one size fits all’ policy makes little sense, instead we talk openly about what everybody needs to find the best solution.

Flexibility is not just for new babies. Many of our team have older dependant family members, young families, or slightly older children. Just because our kids are growing up, doesn’t mean they don’t need us (in fact, their problems seem to become more complex). There are always school drop-offs, special events, sick days, sports games and holidays (and more holidays). For many families, our remote work culture can make all the difference, allowing hours to be caught up from home, in the evenings or early morning. Proper support of remote working solutions is critical.

Greta joined Media Suite last year and really values the options she has now. She often works from home, after her daughter has gone to bed, which lets her bring in a full time income while also spending quality time with her family.

I like to think I can have it all – a fulfilling family life and a satisfying career. Media Suite helps by understanding that life outside work is important too. They understand that you can care about both work and home, and that caring about both doesn’t make you less valuable as an employee. – Greta

Developer Mark has three kids and often manages to attend their daytime school events, doctor/dentist appointments etc as well as being home for the 5:30pm family meal, choosing to make up the missed time later in the evening when the kids are in bed. His dream is work-life balance that looks like a four-day week/three-day weekend.

Mark prioritises special events and moments with his kids, catching up on work in the evening.

There are often school events during the day that at least one parent is expected to attend, and when you get more kids at school they seem to be every other week. I feel really lucky to be able to attend those events in the majority of cases, and just work a bit extra in the evening, or the next day, to make up for it. – Mark

The Media Suite culture is a key part of any flexible work solution, whether that be for parents, or to support the team in their lifestyle choices, passions, or managing health and wellbeing. The key for us is fostering leadership and professional disciplines which allow employees to arrange their flexibility without fear of repercussions or a change in relationship dynamics within their team. That obviously requires a highly professional team, who care about their work and are committed to not letting down their project team or clients. In that sense flexibility walks in hand with accountability.

When the commitment to delivery is genuine, the way we regard working parenthood can become more realistic.  Nearly every member of the team I spoke with recalls babies sleeping on parents during stand-ups, kids busting into video-calls, older children diligently working on their colouring-in while something got finished in the office – not to mention ongoing turf wars over home office space occupied by toys. Then there was that one guy who thought his life “wouldn’t change too much” after his daughter was born (this comment has since been retracted).

James and Penny.

The team which takes all this in stride and focuses on outcomes can absolutely afford to support working parents with meaningful flexibility. The first step in this relationship is a conscious decision to hire people responsible and professional enough to take an active role in managing their work-life balance. Media Suite’s approach relies on trust, good communication and adherence to professional standards.

Where to from here?

I doubt anyone can say they have it all perfectly squared away. Some of our team still aim to balance their lives a little better. Rarely is there a picture-perfect solution.

Work-life balance should be something we can all be actively working towards. I would like to see more employers supporting families, and better government policies for families to tailor their support package to suit their needs. Ideally, parents would be able to access flexible child care which allows them to return to work when they’re ready, at a cost they can afford.


Abi with her kids, Xavier, Phoebe and Raff.

The lack of connection between our national policies and the reality of parenting can’t be lost on everyone. On the one hand, mothers are expected to breastfeed for at least six months, but they’re offered only 18 weeks Maternity Leave. After that, the cost of childcare is not mitigated until free ECE hours kick in when a child turns three. Many households needing two incomes must then choose between unpaid leave and the loss of one income, or a return to work with an income reduced by childcare cost – and that’s without considering what’s best for the family unit beyond just the bottom dollar. Having better support in the workplace would no doubt make such a transition time a whole lot easier for working parents who really feel the gaps in our legislation.

At the moment, all eyes are on our fearless leader, Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern, as she approaches one of the most public work-life balance challenges this country has seen. I would imagine many Kiwis, particularly working parents, are silently praying she pulls it off.  If she does, her example could be a valuable spotlight on what can be achieved with the right support. She has pledged a six-week leave followed by a return to work, with her partner taking on the primary caregiver role. Perhaps her own situation will prompt her to closely consider how other parents might be managing without the same support networks. Fingers crossed we will be celebrating her success as a catalyst for change.

Shout out to the awesome Media Suite team for contributing to this blog post and sharing their beautiful families.